The hard part of co-parenting isn't the logistics—it's the murky emotional stuff underneath 

You know what you're supposed to do—stay calm, hold boundaries, keep the focus on the kids. But knowing what to do and actually being able to do it in the moment are two different things, especially when interactions with your co-parent still have the potential to pull you back into the old dysfunctional relational patterns. This work is for you, whether you're navigating a transition into nesting, managing challenging dynamics with a co-parent, or grappling with your new identity as a co-parent and part-time single person.

This is that deeper work.

I help people navigate the emotional layers that underpin the logistical aspects of separation, nesting, and co-parenting. We get clear on what's really driving the tension that's preventing smoother collaboration, dig into the shadow parts that keep you reactive, and build new ways of relating that don't require your co-parent to change first.  

This is not a co-parenting version of couples' therapy

The joint sessions I offer to co-parents are for discussing logistics only—agreeing on a nesting configuration, drafting agreements, and aligning on a co-parenting strategy. This is not a space for rehashing grievances or staging arguments—the messy, unmasked emotional work is reserved for the individual sessions where it's easier and safer to unpack what might be going on underneath the surface, without your ex in the audience. Both co-parents are welcome to see me individually, but it's also okay for only one parent to do the individual sessions and for the other co-parent to participate only in the joint sessions, or not at all. 

Joint sessions are for co-parents who are ready to collaborate on:

• Aligning on logistics, schedules, and agreements
• Future visioning—what does this look like long-term?
• Navigating transitions (into nesting, out of nesting, handling new partners, moves)

Individual sessions are for deeper work on triggers and shadow parts:

• Getting curious about whatever is coming up emotionally 
• Unpacking your subconscious contribution to the patterns in the dynamic
• Communication strategies that account for what's being said between the words—managing and navigating the energetic layer to communication
• Building boundaries that are rooted in sovereignty, not defensiveness 
• Moving from triggered reactivity to grounded sovereignty

Need more after the initial six? You can add sessions à la carte.

It doesn't matter who is doing what to who—I don't take sides.

It is very common, especially in higher-conflict separations, for a narrative to take root that one person is the perpetrator of the dysfunction and the other is just on the receiving end of it. Oftentimes, each partner is telling themselves an inverse version of this same story since both people feel invalidated, controlled, manipulated, or gaslit at the same time.

When I work with ex-partners individually, I do not seek to get to the bottom of who is more "right". I believe that whatever experience you're having with your ex-partner is completely real, true and valid—to you. But I also believe, it is completely within your control to change your experience of it.

Behind every claim that the other person is projecting something onto you, is a seed of fear that what they are saying might be true. Behind every claim of gaslighting or manipulation is a seed of self-abandonment. Together, we can shift the focus away from whatever our ex is doing back onto ourselves and how we are receiving it. How are we overstepping or abandoning our own sovereignty? How are we still looking for this other person for the feelings of worthiness or validation that we should be sourcing from within?

If both partners are willing to authentically and vulnerably engage in this type of work, the shift can be immense, but even if only one of you has the capacity to dive this deep, an individual in the relationship still has the power to radically shift the dynamic. 

 My high-touch coaching series package is for you if...

• You've read my Realistic Guide to Nesting and are ready to implement nesting for your family.
• You're tired of feeling stuck in a less-than-satisfying co-parenting dynamic or two-household living arrangement.
• You're committed to centering your children in your co-parenting strategies.
• You're open to trying a more radical approach that may challenges some of the mainstream advice you've heard (that hasn't been working for you).
• You're committed to looking inward at the role you've been playing in your patterns, and you aren't directing any energy towards getting your co-parent to change. 

No time for coaching calls? I totally get it.

Between school drop offs and bedtime routines, finding time for coaching while navigating a separation might not be feasible! And if aren't ready to share coaching space with your ex or just need a gentler rhythm, these call-free options are here to meet you where you are and support you at your own pace.

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Spring 2026 

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Low-Drama Co-Parenting

...even if your ex is a covert narcissist 

As part of my work on narcissist and empath dynamics, I am creating a spin-off guide specifically for people who are navigating a co-parenting relationship with an ex who has covert narcissistic defenses. 

The advice for healing and recovering from a covert narcissistic relationship is typically to create as much space as possible—ideally going no-contact. That's obviously not possible when there are kids involved. Sure, you can implement a low-contact parenting approach, but it leaves a lot to be desired in terms of what you might have hoped for a more collaborative, engaged co-parenting dynamic, even if your relationship with your ex partner wasn't the healthiest.

Unresolved tension between the parents makes its way onto the children and they believe that it's their responsibility to navigate and mediate the disparity between their parents. The dynamic still feels fraught because every touchpoint holds the potential for backsliding into the dysfunctional dynamics that led to the separation in the first place. And “gray rocking” can feel emotionally draining when you are forced to dampen your authentic emotional expression anytime you are around your ex, which could be during important shared milestones with your children where you’d like to feel present and at ease.

This guide offers a heartfelt deep dive into the shadow work that operates in how we navigate our sovereignty in a co-parenting dynamic, how we respect our ex partner’s sovereignty, and how we communicate and interact from a place of grounded, energetic integrity.

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Dive even deeper into healing from narcissistic dynamics with a FREE preview of the full book

Introducing a radical new way to heal from narcissistic relational dynamics. Much of what is currently out there to support people who have suffered from covert narcissistic abuse focuses on cutting off your empathy and compassion for your ex partner by demonizing them, and positioning yourself squarely on the side of "innocent victim". This book flips much of the conventional discourse on its head by demonstrating how people with narcissistic and empath tendencies are operating on two sides of the same share core wound—a worthiness wound—and how both people in a narcissistic relational dynamic are fear emotional vulnerability, and seek validation and wholeness from the other person through subtle attempts to control, fix or heal them.

True healing means coming face to face with your own inner narcissistic defenses—and accepting how those parts have been doing their best to keep you safe.

If you find yourself getting drawn into toxic relational patterns again and again, despite how much reading and healing you've tried to do so you can spot the red flags early and keep your boundaries intact—this book is for you. It unpacks why the surface level tactics to counteract and resist narcissistic dynamics only serve to draw us back into them.

And if you're ready to reclaim your deep feelings of compassion, empathy, and a feeling of ease and open heartedness without feeling like it makes you vulnerable to abuse as you navigate the world as an empathic soul—this book is for you.  

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Available for free for a limited time
to beta readers willing to provide
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